EP. 58 | Self-Loathing vs. Self-Love: What Actually Gets Results

Feb 2

For the high achievers who think they need to be harder on themselves.

You're holding yourself accountable, chasing your goals, refusing to waste time. But somewhere along the way, self-discipline turned into self-loathing. And now you're wondering: if I stop being so hard on myself, will I just... stop trying?

This episode breaks down why hating yourself into change is like taking a 36-hour flight with unnecessary layovers. You'll eventually get there, but you'll be exhausted, depleted, and resentful. There's a direct flight available.

In this episode:

Why shame triggers your nervous system into protection mode (and kills your follow-through)
The cycle that keeps you stuck: shame → avoidance → more shame
Why loving your body BEFORE it changes is what actually creates change
Four mantras to redirect your brain when the shame spiral starts
The difference between self-discipline and self-attack (and which one actually works)

You don't need more discipline. You need to stop taking the long way around.

Ready to stop self sabotaging? If you need someone to help you push through (not just give you another pep talk), I've got limited one-on-one coaching consult spots available each week. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching to book your call.

Get your copy of my book “Okay, Now What?” here!

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