EP. 53 | How to Actually Validate Yourself (When No One Else Does)

Dec 10

Ever find yourself waiting for someone to notice how hard you're struggling? Waiting for your partner to ask if you're okay, your doctor to take you seriously, or someone—anyone—to validate that yes, what you're going through really IS that hard?

Here's the truth: you can't control if someone else gives you that validation. But you can give it to yourself. And no, that's not the same as toxic positivity or forcing yourself to "look on the bright side." It's about giving yourself the same compassion you'd give a friend going through the exact same thing.

In this episode, I'm sharing a 6-step framework for self-validation that's helped me navigate everything from grief to everyday struggles. I'll walk you through how to actually process what you're feeling instead of bypassing it, how to connect your emotions to your values so you don't stay stuck, and the common mistakes that keep people trapped in either self-denial or self-pity.

Because here's what I want you to hear: You don't need anyone else's permission to feel what you're feeling. The validation you're waiting for? You can give it to yourself.

Key Topics:

The difference between self-validation and toxic positivity
Why naming your emotions literally calms your nervous system
The 6-step framework for validating yourself through hard things
Common mistakes (and what self-validation is NOT)
How to honour what you actually need right now

Ready to Actually Stop Waiting for Others to Validate You?

You can listen to every podcast episode and know all the strategies, but if you're still waiting for someone to notice you're struggling, nothing changes.

That's where coaching comes in.

I help women get clear on what they actually need (not what they think they should need), how to validate themselves without falling into toxic positivity, and most importantly—how to stop making their worthiness dependent on other people's recognition.

Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching

It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you.

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